7 Secrets Of A Confident Woman

The Real Single Moms Club started the year (2015) reading The Confident Woman by Joyce Meyer. I would like to share Chapter 4, The Seven Secrets of A Confident Woman. I’ve located a recent video of her teaching on these secrets. Until you can read the book, I encourage you to take some time (an hour) to listen to the video

The 7 Secrets of a Confident Woman are:

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How Can I Be A Better Mom?

I ran across this video and it made me think about a conversation I had with my daughter. I had been facilitating some leadership training at work and I was explaining to the team, the importance of getting feedback from their team members. What can I do to be a better leader? They looked at me like, Are you crazy? They will come up with all kinds of stuff.

The reality of it is, you don’t really know how you’re doing if you don’t ask. When asking this question, you have to be humble and ready to receive the constructive feedback. Well after teaching this class for a few days, I came home and asked my daughter, “What can I do to be a better mom?” I thought, now of course I admire my mother and after all, she didn’t do a bad job raising us but how would things have been if we would have felt comfortable telling my parents what we needed from them? I can hear both of them saying something like “it really doesn’t matter, I’m the parent and you do what I say” LOL while it’s funny, it can actually open doors for parents to have a better understanding of a child’s individuality. My dad jokes all the time saying, “Since I was the oldest, I was the test child” because they didn’t know anything about parenting, except for how they were raised Back In The Day!

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The Power of A Praying Mother

It’s been 17 days and although 17 days is less than 3 weeks but right at 2.5, it seems like 3 months when your child is 6 hours away and she’s been unhappy 16 out of those 17 days.  Everyone thought we would nearly go into depression when she left for college last year, but to be honest we did well.  There was a few moments of “I miss you” and “Mom I think I’m just going to come home”  but it was never anything that Mom couldn’t coach her through.  But what do you do when your child is on campus and her only issue is “residence life”?  No she’s not living on the street.  Thank God! but for 16 days she’s been uncomfortable where she’s living, she’s moved once (first 10 days) due to some mechanical issues in the room and now for the last 7 days she’s been dealing with a negative roommate.  In one of my emails I wrote, “it’s been 4 days and they haven’t said 4 words but yet this young lady is making it clear to everyone that “she doesn’t F with her roommate”.  and then with all of this I’m told Key can move into a single room but there would be an additional charge each semester!  So without going any further, Yall know I was upset right? I’ve got to pay for inconvenience?

If you would, Allow me to take this deeper, we are dealing with an attack from the enemy, a spiritual war.  In order for the two of us to call it out, we had to be educated on satans purpose so we could be aware of the enemies tricks.  (For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the powers, against the world forces of this darkness, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places. Eph 6:12))  My daughter asked me just out of frustration “Why me?”.  See she already knew the answer but I had to remind her because the “enemy sees the calling on your life, he wants to take you down early”.  Unfortunately for believers walking in the world, we are operating on satans territory everyday. We are in prison (Eph 6:20) So everyday we are in a fight, Literally!  See my daughter and this girl were texting just fine BUT when they met face to face for the first time, something raised up inside of her and began to attack my daughter.  This hateful attitude was so disrespectful that it didn’t matter who was in her way, she said if it had to do with her roommate “she wasn’t compromising”.

I had to notice how consumed I had gotten with this situation, from fussing & cussing about it all day, threatening to go to the school and clown the student and the administration, threatening to use my social media influence, sending emails, phone calls…. But it wasn’t until last night that I said, “I’ve got to get back grounded”. Then this morning at 530 I woke up and that was the first thing on my mind but as I was praying “God you’ve got to fix it” God said “you’ve got to get back grounded, you can’t fight if you’re distracted”!  See the enemy used this as a distraction for me and my daughter.  I am a Praying Mother but my POWER was weakened due to the distractions.  My energy was  being drained by the consumption of it. Why in the world was one thing happening after another?  One of my emails said “this has gone from one extreme to another”.  But the enemy knew to keep this issue ongoing and I would get angrier and angrier (more so because I wasn’t physically there with my baby) and my daughter would become more and more frustrated and really begin to question God. Wow this is deep!

So now what will I do to get us back grounded?

  1. Recognize that there is a war going on.  When those spirits came into contact with each other, the war began.
  2. Be Still, Be Quiet and Be Strong!  Let Go and Trust God  to fight the battle.  (Ephesians 6:10) As Mom I wanted to get there, but she kept telling me No. Funny my Dad has been able to be there twice, because of timing he was passing through. So that was great comfort.
  3. We must Suit Up for War, Put on the Armor of God.   Ephesians 6:14-17
  4. Pray at all times Ephesians 6:18
  5. Be Bold, Be Fearless about speaking of the gospel. Ephesians 6:19
  6. Believe that in all things God works for the good of those that love the lord and are called for his purpose! Romans 8:28

In closing this morning I would just like to add, I feel so much better now that I have gotten grounded.  I am now able to get back focused and not feeling like I can’t function because I need to be heard in my absence. I am no longer allowing the enemy to use me.  I am at peace knowing God is at Dillard University fighting this battle! I also declare that because of this lesson, today will be the last day of war!

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